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Radiocarbon dating is a method of determining the age of an object by using the properties of radiocarbon. a radioactive isotope of carbon. The method was invented by Willard Libby in the late 1940s and soon became a standard tool for archaeologists. It depends on the fact that radiocarbon, often abbreviated as 14

C. is constantly being created in the atmosphere by the interaction of cosmic rays with atmospheric nitrogen. The resulting radiocarbon combines with atmospheric oxygen to form radioactive carbon dioxide. This is then incorporated into plants by photosynthesis. and animals acquire 14

C by eating the plants. When the animal or plant dies, it stops exchanging carbon with its environment, and from that point the amount of 14

C it contains begins to reduce as the 14

C undergoes radioactive decay. Measuring the amount of 14

C in a sample from a dead plant or animal such as piece of old wood or a fragment of bone provides information that can be used to calculate when the animal or plant died. The oldest dates that can be reliably measured by radiocarbon dating are around 50,000 years ago, though special preparation methods occasionally permit dating of older samples.

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C in the atmosphere has been over the past fifty thousand years. The resulting data, in the form of a calibration curve, is now used to convert a given measurement of radiocarbon in a sample into an estimate of the sample's actual calendar age. In addition to this curve, other corrections must be made to account for different proportions of 14

C in different types of organism (fractionation) and different 14

C levels in different parts of the biosphere (reservoir effects).

Measurement of radiocarbon was originally done by beta-counting devices, so called because they counted the amount of beta radiation emitted by decaying 14

C atoms in a sample. More recently, accelerator mass spectrometry has become the method of choice; it can be used with much smaller samples (as small as individual plant seeds), and gives results much more quickly.

The development of radiocarbon dating has had a profound impact on archaeology. In addition to permitting more accurate dating within archaeological sites than did methods previously in use, it also allows comparison of dates of events across great distances. Histories of archaeology often refer to the early impact of the new method as the “radiocarbon revolution”. Occasionally, the method is used for items of popular interest such as the Shroud of Turin. which is claimed to show an image of the body of Jesus Christ. A sample of linen from the shroud was tested in 1988 and found to date from the 1200s or 1300s, casting doubt on its authenticity.

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Background [ edit ]

History [ edit ]

In the early 1930s Willard Libby was a chemistry student at the University of Berkeley. receiving his Ph. D. in 1933. He remained there as an instructor until the end of the decade. In 1939 the Radiation Laboratory at Berkeley began experiments to determine if any of the elements common in organic matter had isotopes with half-lives long enough to be of value in biomedical research. It was soon discovered that 14

C 's half-life was far longer than had been previously thought, and in 1940 this was followed by proof that the interaction of slow neutrons with 14

N was the main pathway by which 14

C was created. It had previously been thought 14

C would be more likely to be created by deuterons interacting with 13

C. At about this time Libby read a paper by W. E. Danforth and S. A. Korff, published in 1939, which predicted the creation of 14

C in the atmosphere by neutrons from cosmic rays which had been slowed down by collisions with molecules of atmospheric gas. It was this paper that first gave Libby the idea that radiocarbon dating might be possible. [ 1 ]

In 1945, Libby moved to the University of Chicago. He published a paper in 1946 in which he proposed that the carbon in living matter might include 14

C as well as non-radioactive carbon. [ 2 ] [ 3 ] Libby and several collaborators proceeded to experiment with methane collected from sewage works in Baltimore, and after isotopically enriching their samples they were able to demonstrate that they contained radioactive 14

C. By contrast, methane created from petroleum had no radiocarbon activity. The results were summarized in a paper in Science in 1947, and the authors commented that their results implied it would be possible to date materials containing carbon of organic origin. [ 2 ] [ 4 ]

Libby and James Arnold proceeded to experiment with samples of wood of known age. For example, two wood samples taken from the tombs of two Egyptian kings, Zoser and Sneferu. independently dated to 2625 BC plus or minus 75 years, were dated by radiocarbon measurement to an average of 2800 BC plus or minus 250 years. These results were published in Science in 1949. [ 5 ] [ 6 ] In 1960, Libby was awarded the Nobel Prize in Chemistry for this work. [ 2 ]

Physical and chemical details [ edit ]

In nature, carbon exists as two stable, nonradioactive isotopes. carbon-12 ( 12

C ), and a radioactive isotope, carbon-14 ( 14

C ), also known as "radiocarbon". The half-life of 14

C (the time it takes for half of a given amount of 14

C to decay ) is about 5,730 years, so its concentration in the atmosphere might be expected to reduce over thousands of years. However, 14

C is constantly being produced in the lower stratosphere and upper troposphere by cosmic rays. which generate neutrons that in turn create 14

C when they strike nitrogen-14 ( 14

N ) atoms. [ 2 ] The 14

C creation process is described by the following nuclear reaction :

Once produced, the 14

C quickly combines with the oxygen in the atmosphere to form carbon dioxide ( CO

2 ). Carbon dioxide produced in this way diffuses in the atmosphere, is dissolved in the ocean, and is taken up by plants via photosynthesis. Animals eat the plants, and ultimately the radiocarbon is distributed throughout the biosphere. The ratio of 14

Principles [ edit ]

During its life, a plant or animal is exchanging carbon with its surroundings, so the carbon it contains will have the same proportion of 14

C as the biosphere and the carbon exchange reservoir. Once it dies, it ceases to acquire 14

C. but the 14

C within its biological material at that time will continue to decay, and so the ratio of 14

C to 12

C in its remains will gradually reduce. Because 14

C decays at a known rate, the proportion of radiocarbon can be used to determine how long it has been since a given sample stopped exchanging carbon—the older the sample, the less 14

C will be left. [ 8 ]

The equation governing the decay of a radioactive isotope is: [ 2 ]

where N 0 is the number of atoms of the isotope in the original sample (at time t = 0, when the organism from which the sample was taken died), and N is the number of atoms left after time t . [ 2 ] ? is a constant that depends on the particular isotope; for a given isotope it is equal to the reciprocal of the mean-life — i. e. the average or expected time a given atom will survive before undergoing radioactive decay. [ 2 ] The mean-life, denoted by ? . of 14

C is 8,267 years, so the equation above can be rewritten as: [ 11 ]

The sample is assumed to have originally had the same 14

C / 12

C ratio as the ratio in the biosphere, and since the size of the sample is known, the total number of atoms in the sample can be calculated, yielding N 0 . the number of 14

C atoms in the original sample. Measurement of N . the number of 14

C atoms currently in the sample, allows the calculation of t . the age of the sample, using the equation above. [ 8 ]

The half-life of a radioactive isotope (the time it takes for half of the sample to decay, usually denoted by t 1/2 ) is a more familiar concept than the mean-life, so although the equations above are expressed in terms of the mean-life, it is more usual to quote the value of 14

C 's half-life than its mean-life. [ note 1 ] The currently accepted value for the half-life of 14

C is 5,730 years. [ 2 ] This means that after 5,730 years, only half of the initial 14

C will have remained; a quarter will have remained after 11,460 years; an eighth after 17,190 years; and so on.

The above calculations make several assumptions, such as that the level of 14

C in the biosphere has remained constant over time. [ 2 ] In fact, the level of 14

C in the biosphere has varied significantly and as a result the values provided by the equation above have to be corrected by using data from other sources in the form of a calibration curve, which is described in more detail below. [ 12 ] For over a decade after Libby's initial work, the accepted value of the half-life for 14

C was 5,568 years; this was improved in the early 1960s to 5,730 years, which meant that many calculated dates in published papers were now incorrect (the error is about 3%). However, it is possible to incorporate a correction for the half-life value into the calibration curve, and so it has become standard practice to quote measured radiocarbon dates in "radiocarbon years", meaning that the dates are calculated using Libby's half-life value and have not been calibrated. [ 13 ] [ note 2 ] This approach has the advantage of maintaining consistency with the early papers, and also avoids the risk of a double correction for the Libby half-life value. [ 15 ]

Carbon exchange reservoir [ edit ]

Simplified version of the carbon exchange reservoir, showing proportions of carbon and relative activity of the 14

The different elements of the carbon exchange reservoir vary in how much carbon they store, and in how long it takes for the 14

C generated by cosmic rays to fully mix with them. [ 2 ] The atmosphere, which is where 14

C is generated, contains about 1.9% of the total carbon in the reservoirs, and the 14

C it contains mixes in less than seven years. [ 16 ] [ 17 ] The ratio of 14

C to 12

C in the atmosphere is taken as the baseline for the other reservoirs: if another reservoir has a lower ratio of 14

C to 12

C. it indicates that the carbon is older and hence that some of the 14

C has decayed. [ 12 ] The ocean surface is an example: it contains 2.4% of the carbon in the exchange reservoir, [ 16 ] but there is only about 95% as much 14

C as would be expected if the ratio were the same as in the atmosphere. [ 2 ] The time it takes for carbon from the atmosphere to mix with the surface ocean is only a few years, [ 18 ] but the surface waters also receive water from the deep ocean, which has over 90% of the carbon in the reservoir. [ 12 ] Water in the deep ocean takes about 1,000 years to circulate back through surface waters, and so the surface waters contain a combination of older water, with depleted 14

C. and water recently at the surface, with 14

C in equilibrium with the atmosphere. [ 12 ]

Creatures living at the ocean surface have the same 14

C ratios as the water they live in, and as a result of the reduced 14

C / 12

C ratio, the radiocarbon age of marine life is typically about 400 years. [ 19 ] [ note 4 ] Organisms on land, however, are in closer equilibrium with the atmosphere and have the same 14

C / 12

C ratio as the atmosphere. [ 2 ] These organisms contain about 1.3% of the carbon in the reservoir; sea organisms have a mass of less than 1% of those on land and are not shown on the diagram. [ 16 ] Accumulated dead organic matter, of both plants and animals, exceeds the mass of the biosphere by a factor of nearly 3, and since this matter is no longer exchanging carbon with its environment, it has a 14

C / 12

Dating considerations [ edit ]

The variation in the 14

C / 12

C ratio in different parts of the carbon exchange reservoir means that a straightforward calculation of the age of a sample based on the amount of 14

C it contains will often give an incorrect result. There are several other possible sources of error that need to be considered. The errors are of four general types:

variations in the 14

C / 12

C ratio in the atmosphere, both geographically and over time;

isotopic fractionation;

variations in the 14

C / 12

C ratio in different parts of the reservoir;

contamination.

Atmospheric variation [ edit ]

In the early years of using the technique, it was understood that it depended on the atmospheric 14

C / 12

C ratio having remained the same over the preceding few thousand years. To verify the accuracy of the method, several artefacts that were datable by other techniques were tested; the results of the testing were in reasonable agreement with the true ages of the objects. However, in 1958, Hessel de Vries was able to demonstrate that the 14

C / 12

C ratio had changed over time by testing wood samples of known ages and showing there was a significant deviation from the expected ratio. This discrepancy, often called the de Vries effect, was resolved by the study of tree rings. [ 20 ] [ 21 ] Comparison of overlapping series of tree rings allowed the construction of a continuous sequence of tree-ring data that spanned 8,000 years. [ 20 ] (Since that time the tree-ring data series has been extended to 13,900 years.) [ 22 ] Carbon-dating the wood from the tree rings themselves provided the check needed on the atmospheric 14

C / 12

C ratio: with a sample of known date, and a measurement of the value of N (the number of atoms of 14

C remaining in the sample), the carbon-dating equation allows the calculation of N 0 – the number of atoms of 14

C in the sample at the time the tree ring was formed – and hence the 14

C / 12

C ratio in the atmosphere at that time. [ 20 ] Armed with the results of carbon-dating the tree rings, it became possible to construct calibration curves designed to correct the errors caused by the variation over time in the 14

C / 12

C ratio. [ 23 ] These curves are described in more detail below .

Atmospheric 14

C. New Zealand [ 24 ] and Austria. [ 25 ] The New Zealand curve is representative of the Southern Hemisphere; the Austrian curve is representative of the Northern Hemisphere. Atmospheric nuclear weapon tests almost doubled the concentration of 14

C in the Northern Hemisphere. [ 9 ] The date that the Partial Test Ban Treaty (PTBT) went into effect is marked on the graph.

Coal and oil began to be burned in large quantities during the 1800s. Both coal and oil are sufficiently old that they contain little detectable 14

C and, as a result, the CO

2 released substantially diluted the atmospheric 14

C / 12

C ratio. Dating an object from the early 20th century hence gives an apparent date older than the true date. For the same reason, 14

C concentrations in the neighbourhood of large cities are lower than the atmospheric average. This fossil fuel effect (also known as the Suess effect, after Hans Suess. who first reported it in 1955) would only amount to a reduction of 0.2% in 14

C activity if the additional carbon from fossil fuels were distributed throughout the carbon exchange reservoir, but because of the long delay in mixing with the deep ocean, the actual effect is a 3% reduction. [ 20 ] [ 26 ]

A much larger effect comes from above-ground nuclear testing, which released large numbers of neutrons and created 14

C. From about 1950 until 1963, when atmospheric nuclear testing was banned, it is estimated that several tonnes of 14

C were created. If all this extra 14

C had immediately been spread across the entire carbon exchange reservoir, it would have led to an increase in the 14

C / 12

C ratio of only a few per cent, but the immediate effect was to almost double the amount of 14

C in the atmosphere, with the peak level occurring in about 1965. The level has since dropped, as the "bomb carbon" (as it is sometimes called) percolates into the rest of the reservoir. [ 20 ] [ 26 ] [ 27 ]

Isotopic fractionation [ edit ]

Photosynthesis is the primary process by which carbon moves from the atmosphere into living things. In both photosynthetic pathways (C3 and C4 ) 12

C is absorbed slightly more easily than 13

C. which in turn is more easily absorbed than 14

C ratios in plants that differ from the ratios in the atmosphere. This effect is known as isotopic fractionation. [ 28 ] [ 29 ]

To determine the degree of fractionation that takes place in a given plant, the amounts of both 12

C and 13

C isotopes are measured, and the resulting 13

C / 12

C ratio is then compared to a standard ratio known as PDB. [ note 5 ] The 13

C / 12

C ratio is used instead of 14

C / 12

C because the former is much easier to measure, and the latter can be easily derived: the depletion of 13

C relative to 12

C is proportional to the difference in the atomic masses of the two isotopes, so the depletion for 14

C is twice the depletion of 13

C. [ 12 ] The fractionation of 13

C. known as ? 13 C. is calculated as follows: [ 28 ]

where the ‰ sign indicates parts per thousand. [ 28 ] Because the PDB standard contains an unusually high proportion of 13

C. [ note 6 ] most measured ? 13 C values are negative.

Dating

Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship. beyond the level of friendship. or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.

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Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries. From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology. dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine. As humans have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies and more recently into modern societies, there have been substantial changes in the relationship between men and women, with perhaps the only biological constant being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen. [ 3 ]

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Historically, marriages in most societies were arranged by parents and older relatives with the goal not being love but legacy and "economic stability and political alliances", according to anthropologists. [ 5 ] Accordingly, there was little need for a temporary trial period such as dating before a permanent community-recognized union was formed between a man and a woman. While pair-bonds of varying forms were recognized by most societies as acceptable social arrangements, marriage was reserved for heterosexual pairings and had a transactional nature, where wives were in many cases a form of property being exchanged between father and husband, and who would have to serve the function of reproduction. Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe ; in China. according to sociologist Tang Can, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" [ 6 ] and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.

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суббота, 3 января 2015 г.

Dating jennifer lawrence

Are Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin Dating?

By Sheila Cosgrove Baylis

08/15/2014 04:25PM

Are you sitting down?

The two are seeing each other, according to E! Lawrence, 24, who recently split with Nicholas Hoult. has been dating the Coldplay frontman since June, E! reports.

Lawrence attended a Coldplay concert in London, according to Heat . and was seen flirting with the singer.

And while the news only recently broke, the Internet has already given them a nickname: Martin Lawrence. No comment from the comedian thus far.

Reps for Lawrence and Coldplay did not immediately respond to PEOPLE's requests for comment.

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Coldplay singer Chris Martin. Photo: Getty Images

Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin are reportedly dating.

The Silver Linings Playboook actress and Coldplay frontman are said to have been seeing each other since late June, after the Oscar winner split from her boyfriend and X-Men co-star Nicholas Hoult.

E! News claims friends of the couple have confirmed the news, which comes four months after Chris Martin, 37, and his wife Gwyneth Paltrow announced, via Paltrow's Goop website, that they were "consciously uncoupling" after 10 years of marriage.

Lawrence, 24, was seen leaving a Coldplay afterparty after the band played at the Royal Albert Hall in London on July 1.

Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin Dating?

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Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin are rumored to be dating.

According to E! . the two stars have been “seeing each other” since late June.

It has NOT been confirmed.

Gossip Cop has reached out for comment on the report.

Earlier this year, Martin split from Gwyneth Paltrow . while Lawrence and boyfriend Nicholas Hoult parted ways.

Jennifer Lawrence & Chris Martin.

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THIS is what we’ve been waiting for all summer.

Maybe that’s why Gwyneth wanted it out there that she already has a boyfriend. Because it turns out…

Chris Martin is dating Jennifer Lawrence….

E! News has the exclusive: that they’ve been “seeing each other since late June”.

And look here – photos of the two leaving a party in London on July 1, not together but probably deliberately not together and no one suspected anything back then because Liam Hemsworth was there and people were probably too busy trying to make that happen and we hadn’t found out yet that she and Nicholas Hoult were done…and, and, and …

HOLY SH-T.

Well done, Chris Martin.

How do you upgrade from Gwyneth Paltrow?

With someone who’s a major box office superstar, with a superhero franchise, her own Hunger Games franchise, who won an Oscar at an age even younger than your ex-wife? I mean, I get it. Don’t you get it? Who wouldn’t get it? For him, that is.

For her? Well, he’s the lead singer of a major rock band. I get that too. I get that…for now. I get that it’s good for all of us. Good Gossip is Jennifer Lawrence over at Gwyneth’s for Thanksgiving. Jennifer Lawrence in the Hamptons, staying at Chris’s place just across the street from Gwyneth’s. Jennifer Lawrence on playdates with Apple and Moses.

God. You really can’t be the prom queen forever, can you?

Hold Up — Are Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin Dating?

Just a week after news broke that Jennifer Lawrence and boyfriend Nicholas Hoult had split, E! Online is reporting that the Hunger Games star is quietly hooking up with Coldplay frontman Chris Martin. Multiple sources confirmed to the outlet that the pair has been "spending quality together since late June" after Jennifer and Nicholas called it quits because of their "different schedules."

Jennifer Lawrence & Chris Martin Are Dating — Over Gwyneth & Nicholas?

Well, we definitely didn’t see this coming! Fresh off their ‘amicable’ splits from Gwyneth Paltrow and Nicholas Hoult, Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin have reportedly embarked on a new romance! Do YOU think they make a cute couple?

Surprise! Oscar winner Jennifer Lawrence . 24, and Coldplay frontman Chris Martin . 37, have been secretly seeing each other since late June, according to a new report. Their reported relationship began shortly after JLaw split from ex-boyfriend and X-Men co-star Nicholas Hoult . and about three months after Chris and wife Gwyneth Paltrow announced their “conscious uncoupling” (aka separation) in March. Who knew?!

Chris Martin & Jennifer Lawrence Dating: Over Nicholas Hoult & Gwyneth Paltrow?

Jennifer Lawrence & Chris Martin Dating? So Crazy It Just Might Work

Jennifer Lawrence & Chris Martin: How Their Flirty Romance Began

It must have been pretty awkward for everyone involved if JLaw and Chris’ new love began while he was still under the same roof as Gwyn! But aside from trying to retain a stable home life for the sake of their children, Apple . 9, and Moses . 7, it seemed like Chris and Gwyneth were both more than ready to move on when they made their decision to separate in March. Plus, Gwyneth has reportedly started dating Glee co-creator Brad Falchuk . according to Us Weekly .

Jennifer Lawrence & Nicholas Hoult: The Truth About Their Breakup

As for Jennifer and Nicholas, who split up for a second time in June, a source told HollywoodLife. com EXCLUSIVELY in early August that a reunion between the exes is highly likely .

“Though they are currently broken up, most of their mutual friends believe that love will find a way and that they will get back together in the future,” our source revealed. “They have a very special bond that they will not find elsewhere.”

We should also point out that both Nicholas and Chris are English — it looks like JLaw has a type!

“I’m a big fan of all things British,” she said in an interview with The Sun in January. “I get to spend some time there now and again and I like that I can go for fish and chips wearing the most awful outfit and it’s cool, you know?”

So what do YOU think, HollywoodLifers . Do Jennifer and Chris make a cute couple? Do you think JLaw should get back together with Nicholas? Let us know!

– Tierney McAfee

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пятница, 2 января 2015 г.

Dating утуб

Меню

Немногие знают, но знаменитый видео сервис Ютуб предлагает всем русскоязычным пользователям свой проект по бесплатному просмотру фильмов онлайн – Кинозал.

Находится он по адресу – www. youtube. com/movies

Что же такое Кинозал от Youtube. Это огромная коллекция российских и советских фильмов, которые любой желающий может смотреть абсолютно бесплатно в режиме онлайн. Самое главное, что вам нет необходимости нарушать авторские права, ведь все легально.

В кинозале вы можете посмотреть как старые и давно полюбившиеся фильмы, например, «Приключения электроника», «Три мушкетера», так и новинки, такие как – «Царь», «ПираМММида», «Любовь в большом городе». Все это доступно без регистрации на основном сервисе Youtube абсолютно бесплатно.

Бесплатно смотреть онлайн фильмы в Кинозале вы можете различных жанров и направлений. На страницы удобно представлены категории, где вы можете выбрать понравившийся фильм, а также посмотреть новинки, которые только что появились.

К каждому фильму представлено описание, а также любой желающий может оставить свой комментарии и поставить оценку. Одним словом – доступен весь функционал, который обычно вы можете использовать при просмотре роликов на Ютубе.

Надеемся, сервис будет и дальше развиваться, и радовать нас новинками отечественных фильмов в отличном качестве.

А вы уже что-нибудь посмотрели в Кинозале от Ютуб?

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Смотреть видео приколы на Ютуб – это просто

Ютуб (www. youtube. com) – самый популярный сервис, который позволяет пользователям со всей планеты хранить здесь свои видео файлы. В Ютубе вы можете найти и смотреть видео приколы, кадры из домашнего архива, спортивные события, новости политики, спорта, мультики, музыку и еще миллионы фильмов. youtube. com ежедневно пользуются миллионы людей – загружают свои файлы, смотрят чужие, комментируют понравившиеся видео сюжеты. Любой желающий может, когда ему захочется, воспользоваться функциональностью Ютуб и смотреть онлайн хоть круглые сутки приколы со всего света, музыкальные клипы, подкасты и другие сюжета.

Видео и музыки на русском Ютуб довольно много. Пожалуй, посчитать количество загруженных за все время файлов не удастся даже создателям системы. Но, несмотря на такое многообразие, разномастность и больше объемы, с помощью поиска можно всегда найти именно то, что нужно. Если вы хотите посмеяться – ищете видео приколы на Ютуб, если хотите узнать о чем будет выходящий вскоре фильм – трейлеры к фильмам можно смотреть онлайн и на youtube. Одним словом – все видео мира собраны здесь, в одном месте. И самое главное, вы их получаете совершенно бесплатно и можете смотреть онлайн, пока не надоест.

Для Российских пользователей существует русский ютуб. Находится он по тому же адресу – www. youtube. com, но весь интерфейс представлен на нашем родном языке. Сам сервис удобно разбит по категориям, в которых вы можете искать необходимое вам видео. К примеру, это может быть юмор и приколы, мультики, смешные сюжеты, спортивные события и курьезы, видео сюжеты о красоте и спорте, а также многое другое.

Мир видео Ютуб создается миллионами пользователей со всего света. К его обогащению хорошими и качественными материалами можете приложить руку и вы, ведь для этого знаний и умений практически не нужно. Чтобы добавить свое видео на Ютуб, необходимо зарегистрироваться. Для создания аккаунта на YouTube необходимо пройти регистрацию Google. Да-да, этот сервис был выкуплен американской поисковой системой, поэтому регистрация проходит именно через него. Никак по другому добавить свое домашнее видео, приколы или мультики, чтобы пользователи в режиме онлайн могли ими наслаждаться – нельзя.

Регистрация аккаунта довольно проста, ее мы описывать не будем. После регистрации вы можете войти в Ютуб, и добавлять свое видео.

Это также довольно просто. Для начала, вам нужно создать свой видео ролик для загрузки на YouTube. Затем необходимо нажать соответствующую клавишу – смотрите картинку.

Добавив видео на Ютуб, вы можете сделать к нему пояснения и описания.

Добавленный вами ролик могут комментировать другие пользователи, а также ставить оценки – за или против. Вы можете отключить данные функции в своем канале YouTube. com для этого видео, но в этом будет один минус. Вы не сможете понять лояльность аудитории к вашему видео.

Надеемся, регистрация на Ютуб вам далась легко. В следующей статье мы расскажем вам как скачать видео с сайта YouTube com, если вы хотите смотреть различные приколы, мультики онлайн непосредственно со своего компьютера.

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Анкеты лучших девушек Мамбы на ютубе!

14 Май 2010 admin

Когда-то я создал ролик про самых “калоритных” девушек с сайта мамба-м. ру. В нём использованы фото пользователей нашей социальной сети. Всего в этом ролике 11 девушек с mamba-m. ru, которые показаны под самым интересным углом для мужчин)).

Вот он:

Все фото взяты с настоящих анкет сайта mamba-m. ru. Со всеми ими вы можете пообщатся онлайн. Вот некоторые фото девушек и ссылки на их анкеты:

К сожалению первые когда я нашёл первые фото т. е. эту девушку я не сообразил сохранить адресс её анкеты. Сорри.

YouTube. com

YouTube. com - по-русски звучит как Ютуб, это один из самых знаменитых сайтов в мире. Можно смело утверждать, что на YouTube. com собрано всё мировое видео.

Что же из себя представляет этот сервис? YouTube - это огромнейший архив видеофайлов, куда любой желающий может легко и просто загрузить своё видео, а также свободно просматривать любые другие видеоролики. А с помощью специальных программ (о них речь пойдёт чуть ниже) можно даже скачать любое понравившиеся видео на свой компьютер.

Что размещают на Ютубе? Размещают буквально всё, начиная от домашнего видео и заканчивая профессиональными видеороликами. Ютуб также часто используют для ведения так называемых видеоблогов.

Как я уже сказал, видео на YouTube. com может разместить любой желающий из любой страны мира, так как проект мультиязычный. Просматривать же видеоролики можно не только на сайте самого сервиса, YouTube. com также позволяет вставлять их на любые сайты, форумы, блоги и личные дневники. Плюсом "ю туб" является и то, что пользователи мобильных портативных устройств также могут вкусить все прелести этого портала, просматривая различное видео на экранах своих гаджетов.

Все видеоролики на Ютубе можно комментировать, что собственно пользователи активно и делают, обсуждая тот или иной популярный интернет-сюжет.

Найти здесь можно абсолютно любые сюжеты на самые разнообразные темы, в этом Вам поможет очень удобный поиск.

В настоящее время Ютуб стал важным игроком на медиа рынке, с ним считаются даже крупные новостные агентства, которые, кстати, создают здесь официальные "виртуальные" представительства. Нередко ролики с youtube. com можно наблюдать в тв-сюжетах. А некоторые пользователи Ютуба уже успели стать мировыми интернет знаменитостями. )

Популярность Ютуба в России также набирает обороты. Посещаемость русскоязычной версии YouTube. ru бьет все рекорды, как собственно и количество размещенного видео. Ютуб. ру - бесспорный лидер в Рунете по просмотру видеороликов.

PS Для того, чтобы скачать видео с YouTube. com . Вы можете воспользоваться одним из следующих бесплатных сервисов: videosaver. ru. skachivai. ru. mediapipe. ru. sgrab. ru. а также бесплатной программой Download Master

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О блоге - краткое руководство - прочтите обязательно

Jul. 1st, 2013 at 7:54 AM

Доброго вам времени суток!

Спасибо за то, что зашли ко мне на страничку! В данном блоге публикуется много различных материалов, поэтому я решил рассказать о том, что именно вы можете в нем найти:

Там вы найдете много интересных программ. Также в моем блоге есть ссылки на различные медитативные программы, выберете тэг "медитация" и вы увидите большое количество различных статей на эту тему.

2. Различные статьи и материалы, размышлизмы. Этих материалов последнее время все меньше и меньше - просто элементарно не хватает времени. В более ранней части журнала вы увидите мои статьи, многие из которых перепечатывались различными интернет-изданиями, такими как "газета. ру" и другими. Пожалуйста примите во внимание, что многие из этих статей написаны с сарказмом, являются провокационными, они ни в коем случае не предназначаются для прочтения без хорошего, здорового ЧУВСТВА ЮМОРА (. ) и представляют собой коллекцию очень хорошо замаскированых ЮМОРЕСОК для людей с развитым ЧЮ. Но раз вы здесь и читаете эту запись, значит у вас с ЧЮ все в полном порядке - иначе бы вас здесь не было.

Dating deal breakers

5 Dating Deal Breakers for Men

There are certain traits that’ll have men running straight for the hills, not the altar. Get clued into these dating deal breakers.

She Doesn’t Have her own Life

One of the best things about a relationship is being able to have a built-in best friend. Your partner is the person you can spend a lazy Sunday with or your big Friday night out. However, be sure to keep the relationships with your own group of friends intact. Men want a woman who’s not only willing but wants to have a girl’s night out. It’s attractive for a woman to have her own hobbies and interests. The time apart only reminds him of just how great you are.

Whether you are a smoker, or constantly the sloppy drunk at the bar, it’s clear your vices could be a deal breaker for a potential mate. Sure, the party was great but while you were getting inebriated he was busy being embarrassed or talking to someone who wasn’t slurring her words. Besides the obvious vices, some men say bad habits like poor hygiene or being very messy are also a turn off. Just think, would you want to date someone with bad breath or a dirty bathroom?

She Doesn’t Tell the Truth

“No one wants to date a liar and trust is the hardest thing to rebuild in a relationship,” says Bay Area-based executive Brian Hauptman. Lying just proves to your potential suitor that you aren’t really interested in a relationship because with Internet search engines and social networking sites it’s simple to do a quick check to see if your story is true. Before lying to your date about your age, career or education just think that if the relationship does work out he is eventually going to find out what your birth date is, where you’re employed or your alma mater—and that’s going to be an awkward conversation to have.

She isn’t Confident

“I hate girls that are always down on themselves,” says Los Angeles-based photographer Todd MacMillan. Women who don’t deal with their personal insecurities before meeting Mr. Right are only setting themselves up for a potential deal breaker. It’s normal to have a bad day but constantly being negative about your body or looks only brings attention to your flaws—real or perceived—and makes you come off bitter and negative, traits that are never attractive. Just like women, men are looking for a mate who is self-assured. Confidence is key.

Cheating (the Ultimate Deal Breaker)

Most men will say cheating gives them carte blanche to call off the relationship. As one of the biggest deal breakers, there are not many second chances when it comes to cheating because it’s setting the person up for another bout of infidelity.

Dating Deal Breakers

If your date has more issues than a magazine, it’s time to cancel the subscription!

On my first date with the guy who is now my husband, I recall asking him if he had ever cheated while in a relationship before. That was important to me. Really important. “Deal breaker” important. If he had said “Yes,” there wouldn’t have been a second date. Fortunately, his answer was a resounding, “No, never.” There was indeed a second date, and a third, and a fourth … and a wedding!

I had coffee with a friend recently who is back in the dating scene. I asked her what her “deal breakers” were. She wasn’t sure what I meant. “You know,” I said, “those things that are absolutely non-negotiable on your part … things about which you aren’t willing to compromise.” I suggested that you have to be clear on these things before you start to date or you might be willing to compromise on things that are really important to you as you find other characteristics really attractive. Ultimately, that means you may lower your standards.

She asked some great questions.

“Can’t people make mistakes,” she asked? “You are all about the power of forgiveness … don’t you believe that some people make mistakes and shouldn’t be penalized for them going forward?” She’s right. I am a huge proponent of the power of forgiveness, but there is a difference between forgiving someone for something they have done in the past, and compromising on your own values and deciding that it isn’t important to you moving forward. I believe in forgiveness, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences or accountability for actions. In my example, I could absolutely see forgiving someone who made a mistake and cheated in a prior relationship, but to me the consequence would have meant no second date with me. Maybe I would have lost out. On the other hand, maybe I would have saved myself some potential heartache. It’s truly a personal decision and one that each person needs to make independently. We each have to set our own standards. My deal breakers may be different than your deal breakers, and vice versa.

“What if you ultimately decide that your deal breaker isn’t really a deal breaker after all?” She said that initially she thought one of her deal breakers would be if a guy was a smoker. She was just starting to date a guy and discovered that while he wasn’t a chain smoker, he did smoke cigars occasionally – usually when he was out with the guys playing cards. She said she would never have considered dating a smoker, but that this didn’t seem like such a big deal. I think we have to be really clear on the parameters of our deal breakers ahead of time so that when we are confronted with them we know where we stand. In this case, her deal breaker of never dating a smoker should have been articulated more clearly. What she really meant was never getting involved with a chain-smoking, cigarette-puffing, nicotine addict. Sure, we can adjust our deal breakers as we go along, but it might be more effective to have them more clearly identified in the beginning!

“What if I fall for a guy even if he has one of my no-doubt-about-it deal breakers?” Well, we are all human, and you have to live with the consequences of your change of heart. If you decide that a deal breaker really isn’t one after all, then fine; just be confident that it honestly and truly isn’t going to resurface as an issue in the future. I’ve seen too many people decide that they are going to “ignore” an issue in the short-term because they are sure they can “change him” in the future. A word to the wise … that doesn’t always work! I haven’t seen too many people succeed when they held out hope in “changing” someone for the better.

If we know in advance what things are our dating deal makers . and which things are our dating deal breakers . it can make the dating process that much more simple. Goodness knows there are too many other things to think about when dating!

What ab out you? Do you know your dating deal breakers? What are they?

Author Monique A. Honaman wrote “The High Road Has Less Traffic: honest advice on the path through love and divorce” (2010) in response to a need for a book that provided honest, real, and raw advice about how to survive and thrive through one of life’s toughest journeys, and “The High Road Has Less Traffic … and a better view” (2013) to provide perspectives on love, marriage, divorce and everything in between. The books are available on Amazon. com. Learn more at www. HighRoadLessTraffic. com .

How deal breakers hinder dating success

Erika Ettin, alittlenudge. com

Posted: Tuesday, August 12, 2014, 3:32 AM

How many deal breakers is it appropriate to have when searching online for a partner? One, five, fifteen? There is no magic number, of course, and Patti Stanger of The Millionaire Matchmaker says that five is a good choice… I tend to agree. If there’s one thing I know from both my own dating experience and from being a dating coach, though, it’s that 125 is too many! Where did I get that crazy number, you ask?

A woman recently posted on Tumblr a section of a guy’s profile on OkCupid that I’ll just say was pretty limiting. And when I say “pretty limiting,” I actually mean ridiculously and obsessively rude and off-putting. Below is just a small sample of his “do not message me if…” section. (For the record, OkCupid actually has a section called “You should message me if…” This means that he actually added this new section to his profile. Classy.)

After reading the entire list, I counted, and I have 20 of his 125 “don’t message me if” qualities. Most notable were:

You consider yourself a happy person. (Umm… guilty as charged.)

You wear uncomfortable clothing and/or shoes for the sake of feminine style. (We all know that women dress for other women!)

You use the term “foodie.” (I’m a foodie, all right, and I’m not sorry about it. I’m just well fed.)

Even if I did fit everything (which I’m pretty sure no one possibly could), I would be so turned off by the negativity that I wouldn’t want to date him anyway! A question I would pose to him is, “Why do some of these things even matter?”

In talking with Sarah Gooding. the resident Dating Coach at PlentyOfFish, she and I agreed that one should create and live by a few key dating deal breakers. Most singles have established certain rules when it comes to dating, but they don't know that they may have too many unnecessary deal breakers that are preventing them from finding a great relationship. To ensure the right person isn't being overlooked, let’s look at these five dating deal breaker rules, courtesy of Sarah and elaborated on by yours truly:

Deal breakers should be qualities, values, or beliefs that won't change.

A lot of clients have said things to me like, “I can’t date him. He’s between jobs.” Does this mean he can’t get a job in the future? Of course not! Income can change; employment status can change; ambition probably can’t.

Create no more than five deal breakers/must haves.

Sit down and really think about what’s important to you. Maybe it’s religious beliefs or level of education. Stick to your guns on those things, but beyond that, explore. As an exercise, picture that perfect person with or without each “deal breaker” and see if it matters. If not, then it’s time to reevaluate your list.

Do not mention your deal breakers in the text of your online dating profile.

Most online dating sites have many check-box questions, such as age, religion, children, etc. This is where the deal breakers will come out. If you want kids, then check that box accurately. No need to then state, “Don’t write to me if you don’t want to have children.”

Don’t use your previous relationship to create future deal breakers.

It’s easy after a relationship ends to want to find the exact opposite type of person, isn’t it? We go through all of the things we loathed about our ex and list those as our new deal breakers. I encourage everyone not to do this because 1) it comes off as fairly bitter and 2) there must have been some good quality in that person if you dated in the first place. Using what you learned from your last relationship, make your list, but don’t make it solely based on what didn’t work the last time.

Also, as a side note, everything that may be a trait that you don’t want in a partner can likely be turned into a trait that you do want. For example:

Negative: I’m not looking for players or serial daters.

Positive: I’m looking for someone who is ready for a committed relationship.

Be open-minded if someone meets all of your criteria. However, if he or she doesn’t, decide if it’s worth giving it a shot.

If someone meets all of the criteria you’ve set for yourself, then it can’t hurt to give it a try. On the one hand, perfect on paper doesn’t equal perfect in real life, so you’ll still have to assess chemistry, but at least you’ll know that you’re off to a good start. On the other hand, if you know that someone has one of your deal breakers (let’s say religion), then perhaps it’s best not to “try that person on” if you know in the long run it’s not something you can live with.

Remember that in the end, what’s often the most important is how someone treats you. Is he or she kind, generous, and giving? How about trustworthy and honest? That’s what matters in life.

A final note to the guy on OkCupid:

I wear yoga pants when I’m not engaging in yoga, and I have participated in a flash mob. We are obviously not meant to be.

Identify Your Own Personal "Deal Breakers" Up Front

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As a single parent, dating and building healthy relationships can be part of taking care of yourself. However, it's vital to identify your own personal deal breakers up front so that you can recognize red flags early on and save yourself and your children some potential heartache. For example, the following types of behaviors should be deal breakers for most dating single moms and dads:

Mistreating You - Never put up with physical or verbal abuse in a dating relationship.

Mistreating Your Children - Whether it's being rude to your children or ignoring them altogether, be extremely cautious about being in a relationship with anyone who is less than 100% kind to your children.

Being Manipulative or Controlling - This is usually a sign of deep insecurity and it's best to allow such an individual to work through his or her issues before even attempting to build a relationship together.

Becoming Too Quickly Dependent on You - Ideally, you want to be in a relationship with someone who can stand on his or her own. It's nice to compliment one another's strengths, but you don't need someone who is going to depend on you completely for his or her emotional well-being.

Lack of Self-Control - Dating someone who explodes in anger or cannot control his or her drinking is definitely a red flag that should not be ignored.

Demeaning Others - Individuals who are condescending or rude to others may eventually treat you the same way.

Making You or Those You Trust Uncomfortable - Trust your instincts. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable, do not continue to pursue a relationship with him or her.

Disregarding What's Important to You - Let's say that there's something you really need to talk about, but the person you're dating doesn't think it's important enough to discuss. This type of insensitivity probably won't go away with time.

Having Different Relationship Goals - If you're attracted to someone who isn't ready to commit, and you want more out of the relationship, let it go. You're not likely to change his or her mind, and you deserve to be with someone who wants the same things you do.

The Pros and Cons of Dating Deal Breakers

The other day I had a great Twitter conversation with dating writer Kelly Seal about her fantastic article, “What Are Your Dating Deal-Breakers? ” Kelly was writing mainly for women but her points hold for everyone. I want to add my own perspective to the issue of deal-breakers, specifically explaining when I think they make sense—and when I think they don’t.

By “deal-breakers,” I mean that one thing that drives you so crazy you can’t imagine even going on a date with—much less living with or marrying—someone who did it. It may be smoking. biting fingernails, being sloppy (or excessively neat), or having political views opposite yours.

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We call these traits deal-breakers, because no matter how great a person is in every other way, that one nagging aspect of their personality or behavior matters so much to you that it breaks the deal. The idea always think of those classic episodes of Seinfeld in which Jerry’s friends mock him for breaking up with many interesting, smart, and beautiful women because of some minor flaw—but in real life, not all deal-breakers are so minor.

Generally I think deal-breakers are a bad idea: They elevate one characteristic over all the others that may weigh in a person's favor. Deal-breakers block us from considering or even seeing anything else that might be good about a person. Can you honestly say that a pet peeve is important enough that you would pass up an otherwise fantastic person because of it? Yes? Then imagine that person being even better—is that one characteristic still really that important? I’d be surprised if it were—and I’ve got my own pet peeve.

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We can draw a parallel with ethics. I often describe moral dilemmas as a conflict between principles which need to be weighed and balanced against each other to arrive at a decision. We each adhere to many ethical principles and ideals, some more important to us than others, but we would be hard-pressed to say there was one principle that always took precedence over every other. For everyone who says, “I would never . ” we can usually ratchet up the effect on his or her other principles to a point at which the person would say, “Well, OK, in that situation, maybe.” (Sorry, Meat Loaf .)

It’s the same thing with the things you want (or don’t want) in a partner. No matter how important your deal-breaker is to you, does it really outweigh every other quality a person may have? Can you really not imagine anyone that is good enough in every other way so as to override that sticking point? I admit that I have a deal-breaker—smoking. It’s not based on any moral judgment—I just cannot stand the smell. having lived with it for years while I was young, and then being free of it for a long time since. I’ve met amazing women who smoked, and dismissed them, not even considering asking them out. But part of me always wondered if I was too hasty. What if one of them was perfect for me in every other way? What did I possibly pass up because of that one thing I couldn’t get past?

Having a deal-breaker is the same as putting one ethical principle above all others, demanding that that requirement be fulfilled before you’ll even consider others. But I doubt that any one principle (in ethics) or characteristic (in relationships) can be so important as to override every other, no matter how strong they might be. People have so many different aspects to them and may have so many wonders to reveal to you that you should be wary of foreclosing that possibility because of one pet peeve.

Except . as Kelly points out, if that deal-breaker is something truly harmful, rather than merely annoying. For example, refusing to date someone whom you know (or suspect) is abusive is not a pet peeve—that’s self-protection. Or if something that person does reminds you of someone who hurt you in the past, again, I would consider that a useful decision-making heuristic or rule of thumb based on self-preservation. For example, maybe someone who hurt you in your past shouted a lot, so you avoid dating people who shout. I think that makes sense: It’s not a perfect signal, but we can’t make perfect decisions. Deal-breakers may also protect us from our own bad choices. If you’re a recovering alcoholic, you may not want to date people who drink—not because it says anything negative about that other person, but because endangers your own sobriety. You might lose out on dating a basically great person that just happens to shout a lot or drink, but you would be anxious with them until you knew that a relationship would not lead to abuse or a relapse.

More serious deal-breakers are often reflections or indications of a person’s character and how they are likely to treat you. If a person is violent or dishonest, those are signs about who that person is, not harmless eccentricities that simply annoy us.

Personality traits reveal themselves in different ways as well: The sad part is that many people too often accept abuse from some partners—in part because it reveals itself slowly over time—and reject others based on mere quirks that are obvious from the start. We end up rejecting people for the wrong reasons and staying with others for even worse ones.

In the end, whether you have deal-breakers and what those deal-breakers are comes down to a point I made earlier about compromise in relationships. You need decide what things about a person are truly important to you and demand those things, but not get stuck on lesser things that really don’t matter and will just stand in the way of fulfillment in your love life.

Aside from avoiding people that threaten to harm you, I would recommend ditching the deal-breakers and keeping an open mind when it comes to minor annoyances that may be hiding a truly wonderful person.

For a select list of my previous Psychology Today posts on relationships, self-loathing, and other topics, see here .

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