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Dr. Neil Clark Warren, Founder

Dr. Warren is a clinical psychologist and author of eight books on love, marriage and emotional health. During 35 years of counseling thousands of married couples, Dr. Warren observed a set of characteristics that seemed to be present in all successful relationships. He called them the 29 Dimensions of Compatibility. After extensive research involving thousands of married couples, Dr. Warren confirmed that these dimensions were indeed highly predictive of relationship success and could be used to match singles. Ten years later, eHarmony's compatibility matching is responsible for nearly 4% of U. S. marriages.*

*2012 U. S. survey conducted for eHarmony by Harris Interactive®

eHarmony - #1 Trusted Online Dating Site for Singles

eHarmony is the first service within the online dating industry to use a scientific approach to matching highly compatible singles. eHarmony's matching is based on using its 29 DIMENSIONS® model to match couples based on features of compatibility found in thousands of successful relationships.

eHarmony is committed to helping singles find love every day . and with over 20 million registered online users, we are confident in our ability to do so. The eHarmony Compatibility Matching System® matches single women and men based on 29 Dimensions® of Compatibility for lasting and fulfilling relationships.

Traditional Internet dating can be challenging for those singles looking for love that lasts. But eHarmony is not a traditional dating site. Of all the single men or women you may meet online, very few will be compatible with you specifically, and it can be difficult to determine the level of compatibility of a potential partner through methods of conventional dating services – browsing classified ads, online personals, or viewing profile photos. Our Compatibility Matching System does the work for you by narrowing the field from thousands of single prospects to match you with a select group of compatible matches with whom you can build a quality relationship.

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eHarmony is different than other online dating websites and services, and we believe our success speaks for itself. On average, 438 people get married every day in the United States because of eHarmony; that accounts for nearly 4% of new U. S. marriages.* At eHarmony, we believe you deserve to find love – true love that comes with a lasting relationship. Because of this, we are committed to assisting singles everywhere in their search to find love and romantic fulfillment.

*2012 U. S. survey conducted for eHarmony by Harris Interactive® online, very few will be compatible with you specifically, and it can be difficult to determine the level of compatibility of a potential partner through methods of conventional dating services – browsing classified ads, online personals, or viewing profile photos. Our Compatibility Matching System does the work for you by narrowing the field from thousands of single prospects to match you with a select group of compatible matches with whom you can build a quality relationship.

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With over 20 million registered users, the eHarmony member base is an ethnically, racially, and religiously diverse group of individuals of all ages – all of whom are looking to find someone special. Amongst our most popular demographics are: Christian Singles. Jewish Singles. Black Singles. Hispanic Singles. Asian Singles. 30s Singles and Senior Singles. We understand it can be difficult to find a mate with whom you share a similar background, goals, or beliefs, and regardless of who you may be looking for, eHarmony wants to help you find the love of your life.

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Unlike traditional dating websites, eHarmony matches compatible men and women based on 29 Dimensions of Compatibility that are predictors of long-term relationship success. Determining compatibility through conventional dating methods could take months, or even years, of interaction between you and your potential partner. At eHarmony, we deliver more than personal ads . We are committed to matching you with truly compatible men or women in order to provide you with the best online dating and relationship experience possible. This is one of the many reasons why eHarmony is now the #1 Trusted Online Dating Site for American singles.

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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Online dating ( OD ) or Internet dating is a personal introductory system whereby individuals can find and contact each other over the Internet to arrange a date. usually with the objective of developing a personal, romantic, or sexual relationship. Online dating services usually provide unmoderated matchmaking over the Internet. through the use of personal computers or cell phones. Users of an online dating service would usually provide personal information, to enable them to search the service provider's database for other individuals. Members use criteria other members set, such as age range, gender and location.

Online dating sites use market metaphors to match people. Match Metaphors are conceptual frameworks that allow individuals to make sense of new concepts by drawing upon familiar experiences and frame-works. This metaphor of the marketplace – a place where people go to “shop” for potential romantic partners and to “sell” themselves in hopes of creating a successful romantic relationship – is highlighted by the layout and functionality of online dating websites. The marketplace metaphor may also resonate with participants’ conceptual orientation towards the process of? nding a romantic partner. [ 1 ] Most sites allow members to upload photos or videos of themselves and browse the photos and videos of others. Sites may offer additional services, such as webcasts. online chat. telephone chat (VOIP ), and message boards. Some sites provide free registration, but may offer services which require a monthly fee. Other sites depend on advertising for their revenue. Some sites such as OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and Badoo are free and offer additional paid services in a freemium revenue model. [ 2 ]

Some sites are broad-based, with members coming from a variety of backgrounds looking for different types of relationships. Other sites are more specific, based on the type of members, interests, location, or relationship desired. A 2005 study of data collected by the Pew Internet & American Life Project found that individuals are more likely to use an online dating service if they use the internet for a greater amount of tasks and less likely to use such a service if they are trusting of others. [ 3 ]

Dating

Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship. beyond the level of friendship. or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.

History [ edit ]

Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries. From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology. dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine. As humans have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies and more recently into modern societies, there have been substantial changes in the relationship between men and women, with perhaps the only biological constant being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen. [ 3 ]

Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior. Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species. in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life. [ 4 ] According to Sapolsky, humans are somewhat in the middle of this spectrum, in the sense that humans form pair bonds, but there is the possibility of cheating or changing partners. [ 4 ] These species-particular behavior patterns provide a context for aspects of human reproduction. including dating. However, one particularity of the human species is that pair bonds are often formed without necessarily having the intention of reproduction. In modern times, emphasis on the institution of marriage, generally described as a male-female bond, has obscured pair bonds formed by same-sex and transsexual couples, and that many heterosexual couples also bond for life without offspring, or that often pairs that do have offspring separate. Thus, the concept of marriage is changing widely in many countries.

Historically, marriages in most societies were arranged by parents and older relatives with the goal not being love but legacy and "economic stability and political alliances", according to anthropologists. [ 5 ] Accordingly, there was little need for a temporary trial period such as dating before a permanent community-recognized union was formed between a man and a woman. While pair-bonds of varying forms were recognized by most societies as acceptable social arrangements, marriage was reserved for heterosexual pairings and had a transactional nature, where wives were in many cases a form of property being exchanged between father and husband, and who would have to serve the function of reproduction. Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe ; in China. according to sociologist Tang Can, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" [ 6 ] and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.

Are you sick and tired of seeing Asian women slip through your fingers because you "messed up" and did something wrong to scare her away? Are you utterly puzzled by Asian women's completely "unexplainable" behavior?

Let's face it. if you ever thought that Asian women are "easy meat", you have completely been LIED to. try going after them and you'll see straight away how annoyingly difficult it is to get them!

"How do I know?"

It's because I’ve been through them myself, done it all.

I've been slapped, laughed at, ignored & humiliated, even beaten up FIVE TIMES (by jealous boyfriends) just for approaching and talking to them! -- whatever it is, you name it, I've done it.

No matter how hard I tried, I could never "seal the deal" & get myself an Asian girl. One after another, I was always thrown off-guard with their "on again, off again" behavior. I kept getting blown off. over and over again. It was confusing. It was painful. It was awful. That rejection. That feeling of helplessness; that no matter how hard you try, these women simply are repelled by you.

I know the feelings of hopelessness & desperation that came from those situations are hard to swallow. And yes, I also know how it makes you cringe with shame every time you even think about it.

I know that feeling well. that antsy, unbearable feeling of needing to change.

You're getting restless, feeling a little uncomfortable in your own skin because you know you're not facing up those problems, and of course. it's so easy to just close your eyes. sweep it all under a rug. and let fate "take care of itself" like how you ALWAYS do.

But deep down.

You know you need help, you want answers & you want them fast!

Asian Girls. Super-Sexy, Super-Sweet, Super Hot. But

brutal as hell. and they will not hesitate to walk off mid-sentence if they don't like (or understand) what they're hearing. They will not hesitate to leave you hanging & walk away when things suddenly don't feel "right" without saying a word (it's part of their culture not to confront and hurt your feelings).

And it comes as no surprise. why? Think about it. knowing little, knowing close to nothing about their culture, their language, their roots. of course they fail. It's sad. but unfortunately, the things a guy would normally try to do to ‘convince’ an Asian woman to like him back will actually end up pushing her further away. even though it seems like the right thing to do at the time!

Fact: Asian women are a completely different breed.

. and conventional "westernized" methods will scare them away!

If you've ever talked to an Asian girl before, you'll realize how different they are straight away! "Westernized", non-Asian girls are generally more outgoing, spirited & lively. she'll be a tad more "open-minded", proactive and will likely pick up a conversation when it stalls. she's likely to participate more, touch you more. and generally be EASIER to read.

Asian women on the other hand are not so "straightforward", open-minded and transparent.

Example: First, there's the whole Asian misconception with kino and touch (use it wrongly, use it too soon and she'll run faster than Ben Johnson). There's another about language -- when you're going after a girl where English is not her first language, miscommunications are bound to happen one way or another, an innocent funny little comment you make might probably just

Turn Her Off And Scare Her Away!

Then there's this thing about maintaining "face" in front of society. To an Asian girl, "image" means THE WORLD to her. Her "face", the way people perceive her is extremely important to her. It's to die for. Put it on the line, shake it a little or mess with it even for a brief second and your chances with her disappears *poof*. just like that!

And that's the MAIN reason why you may have encountered resistance from an Asian girl when you tried to jump the gun and sexually escalate with her in public (she'll get offended, back off and push you away). but once you're both alone and out of sight from everyone, she'll pounce on you with raw aggression and sexual instincts like no other!

Most guys fail simply because they simply do not understand them: what makes them "tick": what their values, customs and backgrounds are. and how to push their emotional "hot buttons" -- the most vital ingredients to finding, meeting and "closing the deal" with the right Asian woman.

. And that's why you're on this page right now. you're frustrated with your lack of success with Asian women. you're not getting what you want from them. Why?: Cos you're saying the wrong things, to the wrong girl, at the wrong time. And until right now, you didn't know any better. that's why!

Others end up embarrassed, dejected. disappointed, disillusioned even because their relationship with an Asian woman didn't work out.

The reality is that these situations happen all the time!… and all too often guys end up missing out on opportunities with them because they just don’t know “what to do”.